Can the Executor Refuse to Follow the Decedent's Wishes?

It depends in large part on the amount of funds at stake and your resources in terms of hiring an attorney.

If the estate is worth it and you can afford to do so, we recommend hiring a local probate attorney to look into the matter and file papers in court if necessary and appropriate. Without an attorney, we recommend going to the local probate court to explain the situation and ask the clerk for advice. Find an attorney near you.

You may also want to check out this article, focusing on what an executor is not allowed to do.